I often hear people voice that solitude and silence are disturbing to them. They go on to explain that it makes their feeling of loneliness and problems stand out in their head. Being with people helps them feel like they are not alone. The noise blocks them from thinking about issues that are troublesome. There was a time where I felt the same way, but I learned something about silence and solitude, it doesn’t have to be your enemy. It can provide the platform for self-discovery.
In my moment of self-awareness, I realized a deep-seated fear from my childhood. At the core of my fear were abandonment and neglect. The loss that I had experienced and the neglect affected me in such a way that made question my worth. I felt an intense loneliness that could not be fixed by any person or thing. Alone in that silence is where I discovered I had some value. I wasn’t overly confident, but I had something to start with. I allowed myself to think through my issues long enough to face my fears and my flaws. This is not an easy thing to do because of the pain you have to relive and the anxiety it creates.
As time passed, my connection with my inner self-has evolved. I share this story about me because sometimes it’s hard to believe that there are people that go through the same things that you do. Early in life, I found that running to connect with people, so you don’t feel lonely, settling for situations or relationships, or staying so busy that you can’t keep things straight is not the cure for anything you may be facing. I soon came to appreciate those moments of solitude and silence because in those times I became more self-aware and saw where I needed to heal.
Find Your Purpose
How many times have you heard someone say, “What is my purpose in life?” Probably more times than you can count. It’s a popular question. I think it’s safe to say that most of us want to be involved in our purpose. We want to feel like we are doing something we were meant to do. I truly get that. One thing I do know is that people can’t tell you what your purpose is. They can tell you how talented you are or how they perceive you. Your purpose is yours to discover.
If you could grasp the idea that you are a unique individual that is equipped with a special set of skills you are well on your way to discovering your purpose. Finding your purpose takes some faith in accepting what comes naturally to you, your talents and gifts. Purpose offers fulfillment of living your best self. In moments of solitude and silence, your purpose will present itself. Fear and doubt often make the process more complex, but the truth of what you feel called to do is there.
Your Sanctuary of Solitude and Silience
Silenceollow comic books, then you probably know about the fortress of solitude. It is a place of solace known to Superman and some other comic characters have been known to have them too. The point is we all need a place where we can think and be alone. Yes, I’m recommending you do this on purpose. Having a fortress of solitude doesn’t have to remain in the fiction world, it can benefit us in the real world as well.
Truth is life has some rough spots at times, yet there are many ways to cope with that truth. Your fortress can be anything you want it to be. Some people like to dedicate a room in their house, others use a corner in a room or a place like a beach or their favorite park where they can be alone. It doesn’t have to be complicated to produce. There are times when my fortress was just closing my eyes and shutting everything else out. Wherever you decide to build your fortress know the purpose is to commune in peace, comfort, and calmness.
In conclusion, solitude and silence can be beneficial to your well-being. There is nothing wrong with being alone or being afraid to hear your own thoughts. The focus in solitude and silence brings the best outcomes when you can use the time to find your purpose, contemplate, discover and understand yourself.