When my kids were younger I used to tell them that nothing in life is free. Everything has a cost. I still remind them of that on occasion. The reality is there are some things offered to us as free, at least it appears that way at first. A closer look reveals something different. Whether it be free food, free tickets, or a free newspaper there is something you must do to have it. For this week’s blog, I want to challenge you to know the cost of whatever it is that you are involved in, in your life. You could be paying in time, trust, money, or other ways. In the following paragraphs, I have presented you with a few situations to consider. As you read, evaluate for yourself if what you have invested in is worth the cost.
It really doesn’t matter the type of relationship you get involved in, just know for it to be worthwhile or beneficial there is a required cost. You probably never think about the price you pay to be in a relationship until something happens that disrupts it or causes it to end. Then, the time, energy, and anything else you invested is brought to the forefront of your mind. You may even ask yourself, “Was it worth it?”
True enough it cost money to be in a relationship today. It cost something to go out to eat, hang out, or shop. But, there is another cost that you pay that isn’t money. I’m talking about your emotions, energy, and time. Are you able to calculate if you are getting something valuable and worthy of the price you are paying?
We work hard to make a living. There are bills to pay and the money must come from somewhere. So, I get it, you must go to work. I do challenge you to evaluate if the work is giving you just as much as you are putting into it. Consider the time it takes to prepare for work, be at work, and recover when you get home from work. If your occupation requires lifting, pulling, or pushing, how is this affecting your body physically?
Some may think they don’t have options or the control to get something out of the job they do other than a paycheck. Working to do what you love is the key. It takes time and effort to figure it all out, but it will be well worth it in the long run.
We get to choose the lifestyle we live. Depending on what we choose, there is a price that goes with it. I’m a fan of living holistically healthy. It cost me my time, energy, and money to make it happen. I take time to meditate and exercise. My energy is used to research health to learn ways to stay healthy and I invest my money on healthy foods to eat. I feel what I get from engaging in this type of lifestyle is beneficial holistically, I’m overall healthy and more productive. So, I will keep paying what it takes for this lifestyle.
On the other hand, you could pay something and not get much in return. In this case, take a closer look at your behaviors and what you’re investing in. Your behaviors may be breeding a no-win situation, for example, smoking resulting in lung disease. What you’re investing in may not be yielding benefits for many reasons. Taking the time to research solutions is wise and could save you time and effort that can be placed elsewhere.
While we can’t get away from the cost of things, we can still evaluate what we are willing to pay. An honest approach, only examining your purpose and passion should be the focus of the decision-making process. If you can’t be true to yourself, it will be difficult to be true in other situations. For example, you may be holding on to something that is not working because you have been taught to never give up even in a bad situation. The realization is it is up to us to learn and grow in experiences. When we do, we can get the most out of life.